Where/how do you find strength and comfort when it feels like God is being silent and your life is out of control?
I completely understand where you’re coming from.
You probably feel like you’ve been doing everything “right” like reading your Bible and praying every night. But, despite your efforts, you’re still getting crickets from God.
This can leave you feeling frustrated, resentful, and alone.
We are called to be strong, courageous, and trust that God is with us wherever we go (Joshua 1:9). But, it’s pretty challenging to do this when we feel like our lives are out of control.
Here are some ways to find strength and comfort even when it feels like your life is going up in flames:
Let Go of Control
As humans, we so badly want to be in the driver’s seat. We want to do everything our way because we think we know what’s best. Then, when we have nowhere left to turn, we may reach out to God. At that point, if He doesn’t give us a clear sign of what to do next, we get fed-up and confused.
If this is you right now, consider letting go of needing to feel like your life is under control. (Letting Jesus take the wheel if you will.)
Consider the idea that it might be okay that you don’t have control. Maybe God is teaching you to let go and trust Him completely.
Find comfort in the fact that you don’t have to have everything figured out. In 1 Corinthians, Paul focuses on the importance of accepting God’s authority over our lives.
“All things are from Him, and we exist for Him. And there is one Lord, Jesus Christ. All things are through him, and we exist through him.” (1 Corinthians 8:6)
Your life belongs to God, so it’s not your job to be in control. Your job is to execute and live your life for Him. If you aren’t getting any clear signs at the moment, maybe that’s intentional. You might not need to do anything right now. Just be patient. Know that God is there and keep listening for His direction.
Silence Doesn’t Equal Absence
Even though it feels like God is absent and your life is out of control, that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily true. God could be doing some “behind the scenes” work that you aren’t aware of yet.
Maybe through His silence He is waiting to see if you will surrender and lean on Him or keep trying to fight on your own. He might be showing you how to let go of control and trust Him, just as we discussed above.
Pray about it. Don’t give up. Be patient. Have faith that He is there even when it feels like He’s not.
Remember His Promises
Often, when we feel like life isn’t going the way we want it to, we crave stability and grasp for something that will give us a little comfort.
When I’m feeling this way, I find a lot of peace when I reflect on all of the promises God made in the Bible. I’ve noticed that many of the people God made promises to were incredibly confused at first. In their eyes, what God was saying was impossible. Some of them hesitated to believe Him at all. But, despite their doubts, God delivered every single time!
Don’t forget that He has promised to fight for you and never leave you. Understanding this might feel challenging right now. But God will keep these promises.
Find comfort in the fact that you can count on Him. Try finding some Bible verses about God’s promises that bring you peace. (I’ve given you some examples at the end of this post.)
“Look, I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go. I will bring you back to this land, for I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.” (Genesis 28:15)
There is Strength in Your Weakness
It’s hardest to find strength when it feels like life is out of control. It’s even tougher when it feels like God, the greatest strength, is being silent.
Fortunately, God’s power is perfected in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
So, although you may feel weak, God’s power is abundant within you.
Paul’s message in 2 Corinthians gives me strength when I’m feeling overwhelmed:
“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore, I will most gladly boast all the more about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may reside in me. So I take pleasure in weakness, insults, hardships, persecutions, and in difficulties, for the sake of Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12: 9-10)
Here are some additional items that might help you:
“You are from God, little children, and you have conquered them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” (1 John 4:4)
“In God, whose words I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” (Psalms 56:4)
“I am the good shepherd. I know my own, and my own know me, just as the Father knows me, and I know the Father. I lay down my life for the sheep.” (John 10: 14-15)
“And even the hairs of your head are all counted, so do not be afraid; you are of more value than many sparrows.” (Matthew 10:30)
I know this season is hard for you. Remember God is greater than it all: your fears, worries, and hurdles. Nothing can stand against Him. You will get through this.
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